- Stop worrying about debt.
- Forgive your ex-lovers.
You loved them once, they made you happy. Even if everything ended badly, they once meant enough to you for you to want to be around them. Forgive them for cheating on you, or for hurting you, or for leaving you. Holding onto the anger and disappointment will only hurt you, not them.
- Stop trying to control your outcome.
The world happens around you, and it doesn't care about your plans. If you want to succeed, then, you have to be flexible enough to accomplish your goals regardless of what life throws at you. In fact, when you plan too much, one tiny bump in the road will destroy all of your plans.
Go with the flow. Preparing exactly what you're going to do and say ahead of time very rarely works out. The universe doesn't often fall into place so easily.
Stop fighting with yourself. Stop fighting the universe and the natural flow of things. Stop resisting and pushing against reality.
- Look in the mirror and love yourself unconditionally.
If you're happy with yourself and love yourself, it will matter less if someone else doesn't like you. You'll find most bullies and hateful people are very unhappy with themselves.
- Leave the job you hate.
You spend around 70% of your life working. (Yes, I made that number up.) Get a job you like, a job you enjoy. No one wants to get up everyday and go somewhere they hate. You should enjoy your job, whether you're a teacher or a painter or a scientist, if you can't enjoy your job, then you're doing the wrong one.
- Find your purpose and live it wholeheartedly.
No I don't mean spend your whole life wondering what about what big thing god has in store for you. If you’ve got a dream and your heart still beats with it, even though nothing seems to be happening, keep at it and don’t let go. Other times, you may feel it right to step away for a while and come back when it calls you again or circumstances shift.
Find something in life that makes you WANT to get out of bed and GO each day. Find that thing that gives you a reason to live, and LIVE IT!
- Adopt a furry friend.
Research has shown that pet ownership has many physical, mental, emotional and social benefits. Pet owners are generally healthier and happier than non-pet owners. They have lower blood pressure and cholesterol; are less depressed; feel less lonely than non-pet owners; and actually find it easier to get to know people. To top this off rescue pets are amazing. Very few things can come close to making you feel as awesome as adopting a new family member from a shelter and saving them from possibly being put down.
- Don't feel guilty for holiday weight-gain.
Holidays are holidays. Good food, good company, busy days and you tend to eat more and work out less. Most people do. It's nothing to feel guilty about. Just enjoy yourself over the holidays and get back on track with your weight loss journey afterwards.
- Travel to the place you keep thinking about.
If there's one place you can't get off your mind, the stunning fashion of New York, the romance of Paris, the misty hills of Ireland, go there! If there is one trip you make in your lifetime, let it be to that place that fascinates you so much you can't stop thinking about going there.
- Try something that scares you.
Science has proven that doing something that scares you will make you more productive, prepare you for new and unexpected changes, help you push your boundaries in the future, and make it easier to harness your creativity.
Swim with sharks, go to the snake room at the zoo, watch a scary movie, skydive, try something new, ask for help; just step out of your comfort zone a little.
- Be open to change.
"Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the fortune." - John F. Kennedy
When you get used to something, when it’s always been there and you count on it always being there, it’s often very uncomfortable when it changes. The longer something is a certain way, the more people expect, and want, it to remain the same. They become content and sometimes even complacent.
But things usually change for a reason. Life is always changing. The more easily you can adapt, the more successful, happy, and appreciated you will be.
- Let go of your past.
No one can live until they let go of the past. Whether you're remembering how great or how horrible your life once was, holding on to that will stop you fully living and enjoying your future.
Let’s face it: we all dwell on the past from time to time. That’s okay—we’re human beings with emotions. As we live life and experience it to its fullest, it’s only natural that we sometimes cling onto what once was. But, when our desire to cling to the past affects our future, we begin a potentially unhealthy and seemingly endless battle with anchors that can hold us down and sink us.
- Stop trying to change people.
People are exactly who they are, and despite your opinion, they will continue to live this way. How many times have people gotten into relationships with the thought “I can make them into a better person; I can save them”? How well does this work out? I bet more often than not, this blew up in their faces. Implementing change within ourselves is hard enough and trying to change the way someone else behaves is even harder.
14. Change Yourself.
So why not try thinking the other way around? Focus on the positive and attract positive people and situations. Think about placing positive meanings on your spouse’s behavior. Instead of finding fault, try accepting that this is the way he or she is.
Accept people for who they are, and enjoy the differences that make everyone unique.